by guest blogger, Deanna Cogdon Miller
As we closed the dishwasher on Thanksgiving dinner tonight, I was struck by a feeling of thanks that was much different than what I usually feel. It goes without saying that I am thankful for my family. Thankful for those three beautiful little smiles, thankful for my incredible husband and thankful for everyone around us who loves and supports us.
But tonight, as we waved goodbye to good friends and some family, I felt an incredible feeling of thanks for all of the people in our lives who love and influence our kids. I’ve never really sat back and thought about how many other adults are helping to shape our kids’ lives. These are adults they trust, adults they care about and adults who show them how important they are in the community beyond our four walls.
When I think about it, I see glimpses of it everywhere. Lying in bed last night our three year old was talking about wanting to have a gymnastics birthday party. She was rhyming off everyone she wanted to invite and then slid the names of our next door neighbours into her list. Our neighbours have grown kids of their own and are grandparents. When I asked why she included them on her list, her answer was, “because they’re so nice and they seem like the kind of people who would like gymnastics.” These neighbours always have a smile and hello for the kids. They let our little guy help them with their push mower. We’re lucky to have them.
We’ve met friends in our neighborhood who have quickly become a part of our lives and who I expect will continue to be important to both of our girls as they grow up. Their son is in school with our oldest and their daughter will be in school with our second daughter. Our girls talk fondly about their family and very much admire and respect their Mom.
Along with these newer people, there’s a whole slew of incredible adults who play a role in the kids’ lives. From our high school friends to their grandparents to our babysitter to their aunts and uncles, they feel love from everywhere. I would be remiss if I didn’t mention our ‘lake family’. This extended family spans different generations and watching the kids interact with them warms my heart. One of our daughters has a special ‘snap’ with another Dad. Our son blows them kisses and plays with them as if he sees them every day. Our oldest daughter seems as comfortable with them in their house as she is with us in ours.
So as Thanksgiving comes to a close, I want to sincerely thank all the adults who care about our kids and who show them what it means to be part of a close-knit and supportive community. We know our kids will be better people because they have all of you in their lives. Thank you.
Deanna is a Mom of three, wife, marketer and blogger – lover of travel, morning coffee, family time, belly laughs, good friends and uninterrupted showers! Follow her on twitter @DeannaCMiller